Sandra's Story
Everything was going well for our family before Will lost his job as a result of a financial that rocked his office. Gradually, I observed as I became resentful in my relationship with him. Though I work, our family would not be able to survive on my salary. Week after week, we were accumulating bills and this made me uneasy. It also compounded the problems our relationship was facing. A communication gap developed and widened overnight that we could hardly discuss without ending it in a misunderstanding. I know I was the cause because I was too obsessed about Will not having a job and the financial responsibility of the home being on me. Even when he makes affectionate remarks, I see myself retorting, “If you love me, then get a job and take care of us”. This makes him feel very bad but being a quiet and reserved person, he would only respond, “I will get one in a short time.”
I tried to stop hitting Will hard with words but I couldn’t. I couldn’t help myself. I know I hurt him. Sometimes when alone, I would lock myself in the bedroom and weep for hours over our ailing marital relationship. I did my worst one evening when Will came home late and said he went to see an old school mate who works with an engineering consulting firm over a job opening. I didn’t know what came over me. I called him liar and spat on his face. He quietly walked away into the bathroom. I broke down on the floor and started crying.
The next morning when I got to work, I discussed the matter with Mary, my colleague who has been my friend for two years now. She advised me to see a psychologist right away. I visited one later that day. He gave some advice that made me feel good, but few days later I noticed that there was hardly any changed in my behaviour.
It did not come to me as a surprise after dinner one evening when Will asked for separation. I broke down in tears because I really love Will and will not want to lose home. After went to bed that night, I went to the sitting room and for the first time a long while, I knelt down and prayed to God to help save my marriage. Next day when I got to work, I saw a paper advert of Save My Marriage Today! on Mary’s table but she was not on seat. “This might help me", I whispered to myself. I hurried to my office, visited the site and rightaway I knew I have an answer to my problem. I downloaded it on my laptop. Will needs to see this.
Then I went over to Mary and discussed it with her. She suggested I should take permission and go home for the day so I can read it without work or anyone interfering. I took permission and went home. Will was at home when I got home and I discussed the package with him and surprisingly, he agreed to read it with me. Half way through, we were fighting back tears and by the time we finished, our marriage was healed. We agreed to make every necessary adjustment by implementing the prescription of the book Two weeks later, he got another job and since then, we have been living happily. It is six years now and there is no sign of cracks in our sweet relationship. Thanks to Save My Marrige Today!
Last Updated ( Wednesday, 21 October 2009 14:41 )